How to communicate??? Hmmmm....

When it boils down to verbal communication, I'm at a loss, especially with somebody intimidating. I get tongue tied and my brain shuts down. These days, I realize that I can't let all these insecurities get to me. I need to be secure and confident. Because no matter where I am, problems exist. They are everywhere. It's time I start learning how to deal with it, not complain about it. Grow up, Jean!

 

Come down from cloud nine and back to reality. Live in the present. Overcome all your hurdles, clear them one by one, step by step.

 

Here's what I learnt in the past two weeks:

 

1. Don't be bothered about what others say or think. Do what you like! Do what you enjoy! If you know it is exactly what you want! Be absolutely sure!

 

2. If it involves another party, find a quiet place to sit together and explain the difficulties that you encounter while executing your work. Compare diffferent scenarios so that both of you will be able to understand and help each other to communicate.

 

3. If it involves your colleague, impress upon them the following:

a. What you're doing

b. How much you're doing

c. What are the impact and consequences of each job

d. How much you've done

e. Tell the problem and make them appreciate it.

 

4. If others are intent on talking aobut themselves, try this:

"That's great! It's a good thing!"(praise them first, then proceed with the following):

"Can I have some time to explain about my work?"

 

5. Always:

    - Listen

    - Be patient

    - Be courteous

    - Think on behalf of the other party

 

6. Remember that every individual is different. Understand their situation. Don't complicate matters and make their lives tough! But here's my argument:

Me: "If I'm always thinking about others, who thinks about me?"

My conscience:"Regardless, do good anyway."

Word of God says, "Now, who is there to harm you if you are zealous for what is good? But even if you suffer for righteous'sake, you will be blessed. Have nothing to do with evil. For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God's will, than for doing evil."(1 Peter 3:13-17)

 

& "The righteous shall live by faith." Romans 1:16

 

In any case, these hiccups are small things in life. They come and go.

 

So, take yourself less seriously and take others more seriously. (Annonymous)